My ex is all over Facebook about what she did with the kids during Spring Break. She apparently took some young woman with her to babysit so she could spend more time with her boyfriend on the Florida beach. She posted my little boy “buck naked” on the beach on Facebook. She posted her “babysitter—young woman” drinking beer with at least a dozen empty beer cans in the background. She posted a picture of her boyfriend and her entwined on the beach on a blanket. And to top it all off, she posted a picture of her new engagement ring from him, and we are not even divorced. Continue reading →
Internet addiction is here and is real! I would like to hear from you on this topic. Do you know that a Kaiser Family Foundation study showed that two-thirds of parents have no rules on internet use, particularly internet use unrelated to homework and research? Today’s second Ask Carolyn continues a discussion of this topic.
Divorce and its aftermath can be (and usually are) chaotic. Having kids and keeping track of all their things was tough enough, and now you have to coordinate your parenting with someone you may not even want to talk to, much less strategize with. And on top of it all, you have to manage everything on your own. Talk about a trial by fire.
Luckily for you, there’s an app for that. Or several. These apps can’t do it all for you, but they can make things easier.
I am a mother with primary custody of a nine-year-old daughter. The father has visitation. For Christmas, he bought our daughter a smartphone for Christmas, but he did not discuss this with me. He had spyware on the smartphone that allowed him to see her opening the Christmas present. I thought that he disengaged the spyware after she opened the present, but I just found out that the spyware is still engaged on my daughter’s phone. This smartphone allows him to track everywhere we go. He told our daughter to be sure to keep the phone with her, particularly when she is with Mommy. His spying makes me feel eerie. We are divorced, so why does he want to know where I am? What should I do?
“Mom, can I have the iPad?” “Dad, can I play on your phone?” How many times a day do you hear that? If you have kids, you’ve probably heard those exact words. My grandson loves to come home with me. Why? To play games on my phone. As you can imagine, I really feel loved. Don’t get me wrong, when you’re having a conversation with someone, or driving, it can be very helpful to have the cell phone or iPad babysitter. But, sometimes parents and grandparents let it go too far. Continue reading →
One of my favorite stars is Gwen Stefani. She manages a life of motherhood, career with celebrity status, and fashion. And, now she has just completed a divorce with her thirteen-year marriage to Gavin Rossdale, which produced Apollo (almost two); Kingston (age 9) and Zuma (age 7). Rumors swirl that Gavin had an affair with the nanny, and Gwen apparently found nude photos of the nanny and plans for Gavin and the nanny to meet for sex—all found on the family iPad. The information on the family iPad yielded an abrupt end to this marriage. Gavin had naughty behavior that uploaded from his iPhone to the cloud and downloaded to the linked family iPad. Continue reading →
There are lots of times many Piedmont Triad and other North Carolinians wish that they could put a GPS tracking device on an ex’s car. Maybe you want to know who the “other woman” or “other man” is. Maybe you want to see what the father or mother of your child is doing. Maybe you want to see if your ex is going to strip clubs. Whatever your reason or mindset, North Carolina has recently enacted new legislation you need to know, and you need to know now!!! Continue reading →
1. Change your email address and password when you begin your family law case. Change your computer and cell phone, if possible. Electronic devices, computers, and cell phones can be serious “leaks” of information and strategy in your case.