Diana Westrick, Legal Assistant, Woodruff Family Law Group
*This blog has practical wisdom and is not intended as legal advice.
We have all been there: something upsetting, traumatizing, and devastating occurs, and we look to those around us for comfort and support. You know, someone who is willing to nod silently while we vent. Now, be honest, how often does that actually happen? The art of “listening” seems foreign to most people, despite their best intentions. Instead, you get advice.
Don’t get me wrong; sometimes you actively seek input from other people, specifically those closest to you and your particular situation. Yet, most often, the advice seems to come in unsolicited form and only seems to add to the stress of the situation. As a prime example, here is my advice to you that you should accept and apply whole-heartedly: Don’t take advice.
After a separation, divorce, custody battle, or even an impending marriage, people will try to tell you what you should do. Continue reading for some of the most common post-breakup “wisdom” people like to dish out and how to respond without kicking them in the shins (while it is always an option, and may be satisfying, it is not recommended).
Scenario #1 – They didn’t really love you anyway; I saw this coming.
Oh, really? You knew my 10-year marriage was doomed for failure while you helped yourself to the open bar at our wedding? I’m glad you kept that to yourself!
Hindsight is always 20/20, except when it is not. Some people gain satisfaction thinking that they can predict the future. The gloating, itself, apparently is not enough; they need to share it with everyone. Hence, bad advice. No one knows your relationships like you do, and despite looking from the outside in, others can only speculate to the truth of your experiences. So how do you react to these know-it-alls? Stand your ground and assertively let them know their words are not tolerated.
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