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By Kristina Pisano, Blog Writer, Woodruff Family Law Group

Recently we went home to Pennsylvania to visit my husband’s 88-year-old grandfather. He is the patriarch of the family and provides warm bear hugs any time we visit with a “Welcome home” whispered in your ear. He is the baby of 12 siblings and has survived two heart attacks and a stroke. Needless to say, he is a real fighter. During Easter dinner, he collapsed and coded twice after being rushed to the hospital. We were in North Carolina and were afraid that we would not be able to say goodbye. He received a pacemaker and defibrillator and now is back to his barrel laughs and typical jokes at a rehabilitation center.  Seeing him and his wife, who we call Memie, made me thankful that my husband’s parents had the difficult conversation several years ago with them about downsizing and moving into a retirement home.

Memie and Pappy lived in a 1930’s colonial style home with bedrooms upstairs and a washer and dryer in the basement.  When they both passed their 80th birthday, we could all see that it was harder and harder to go up and down steps. This house was Memie’s dream house; we loved visiting them because it felt like we were actually home. When the topic of downsizing was first brought up, it was met with a defiant, no! They wanted to live out their last days in the home they always dreamed of.

After having more delicate conversations and Memie seeing Pappy having more issues climbing the stairs every night, they agreed to at least tour a few facilities in the Pennsylvania mountainside. They found one they liked, after many objections, it was in an apartment in a larger retirement community. The amenities offered were a restaurant just steps from their apartment door, library, craft room, and entertainment center. Once Memie heard she would not have to cook, and a cleaning service would come in monthly to do a deep cleaning, she was sold. Continue reading →

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This is a must-see movie for grandparents seeking custody, particularly if the opposing parties are really the paternal grandparents vs. the maternal grandparents.  In a complex fact pattern, everyone gets it right in the end, after a movie filled with struggles.  All looked after the seven-year-old Eloise’s best interests, although it was certainly shaky for a while in the movie.

Kevin Costner plays Elliott Anders, a grandfather, who, with his wife Carol, is raising their granddaughter, cute and vivacious Eloise.   Carol and Elliott’s daughter died of congenital heart disease giving birth to cute, seven-year-old Eloise, who lives with Elliott and Carol.  Then, Carol dies suddenly in a car accident.  Eloise is in the third grade at an advanced school in Los Angeles.  Grandfather Elliott is immediately in the primary parent position with lots of new skill sets to learn, not to mention the grieving for his wife’s sudden death.

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